Man is not mean to live alone and many of us spend much time, money, and effort in the search for another person to be with. Some of us our adept at this process and quickly find the individual that is a perfect match. Others like to play the game for a while and aim for variety of quality. Some people are so afraid of the game that they make excuses for the majority of their life on why they can’t meet anyone. I’ve never been much into the variety game as I often shoot for one at a time and see where it goes.
For the longest time after the divorce I had a huge fear of rejection. I’d been through it once and I never wanted to feel like that again. The experience changed my life and made me for the better. It made me realize that I would get up the next day and move along. If nothing else, I’d learn something from the situation. This time around I told myself, what the heck, whats the worst that she’s going to say? All she can do is tell me no. I had to be careful with that growing experience because the first thing you want to do is put up a barrier so that nobody else can get close to you because the hurt sucks. The hurt, as bad as it is, is probably the best part because its the thing you’ll remember. You’ll remember why you went out there in the first place so you wouldn’t have to experience the pain again. The pain happens if it doesn’t work out but you’re shooting for never having that feeling again. If it does happen, the sun will rise again tomorrow… unless a nuclear apocalypse coincides with the collapse of your relationship causing nuclear winter. The odds of this happening is minimal and I’m sure that dating would be the last thing on your mind. I’m willing to wager you’d be trying to not die of starvation, a permanent sunburn, or radiation poisoning.
So, for the last month I’ve been dating a particularly spectacular girl who I enjoy spending time with. I’m fairly set in my ways as I’ve been out on my own for a while and I’m used to doing things a certain way. There is still a whole bunch of flex in me and dating is all about finding the flex in yourself and in the other person. You’ll know immediately if there isn’t a spark when you first meet but the test of time is seeing how you interact when a difficult situation causes friction. So, we’ve moved through the first one of those (thanks Target!) and I’m curious to see where it’s going to lead us.
So, yes granny, I am dating a girl.
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